Thursday, May 14, 2009

COULD IT BE I'M IN A RELATIONSHIP AND I JUST DON'T KNOW IT

I'm feeling really stupid as I bring this issue to you my people of blogsville,

met on a holiday trip to ghana in march 2008- check

same guy i had my last "rumu rumu" with-check

calls me at least once a day to say nothing in particular but how was ur day, tell me how ur day went and he really listens-check

he sees me off halfway frm his house even though i have my car-check

i miss him sometimes so i also call him at least once a day-check

he gets super jealous when i tell him i went to watch a movie with a colleague-check...(his response...."see, u are reporting urself")

he calls me up when he hears a song he knows i like on radio-check

I called him once when a radio station had rock on their playlist...he loves rock.-check

if i go to his house and i'm hungry,he says the kitchen is all urs baby-check

i once asked him wht his his "specs"...his response was "you"-check


so pls am I in denial tht we have a relationship?pls tell me i'm not.

63 comments:

Jayla. said...

well it depends, there are times in my life where av done the same things you listed with more than one man. Infact 4 or 5....

Tigeress said...

kitchen is all yours ke? UNCHECK!! I want to hear. What do you want to eat baby, i'll go make it. CHECK!!! lol!

Seriously, i think you need to have the talk with this nice sounding guy. U might just be in a relationship. afterall u guys dey rumu-rumu. lol@ rumu-rumu.

chayoma said...

i totally agree with Tigeress.
sounds like there is an attraction. the point is taking it to the next step...an OFFICIAL relationship! the two of you sitting down and acknowledging that there is something going on btwn u two and what u r going to do abt it...

FACEBOOK STATUS: in relationship! lol!

kmplx said...

hmmmm.... not until "official convo had - check"... till then... it's just talk, with a hint of tease...

Nice Anon said...

hahahahahahahahahahaha. I have died! E be like sey i go borrow that your ramu ramu ooh. I like am! Ramu ramu wey just good up and down. I will say CHECK to that ooh

Tigeress: How many men can cook? not a lot.

K said...

You need to find out...no point in guessing!

Confessions of a London gal said...

Awww the joy of a new relationship! lol.
Ok seriously, you need to talk, I always like to say that no one knows anything for sure unless they are told- so he could be jealous wen you go out, do adorable lil sweet things for you and just the sound of his voice can turn you to mush- but it aint a relationship until you guys have the 'The talk' and you both know were each other stand!
but fingers crossed- this one will come out positive!

Afrobabe said...

Dammm I love his response to his specs….got to use that line soon...

scribble,me.free said...

mehn, it's not a relationship till u have the talk...that's my take at least

scribble,me.free said...

@Nice Anon..I can cook, WELL!

Rose said...

I honestly dunno...I think you may have the answer to that..Come and spill if there is anything...:)

RocNaija said...

Guess Roc's with kmplx on this one..

Tigeress said...

Nice Anon, surely anybody that likes to eat can cook. So u probably meant to say not a lot of men can cook well. difference btw knowing how to cook and not knowing how to cook well. Personally any grown ass man/woman who doesnt know how to cook at all shld be ashamed of themselves. If they cant cook well- thats a whole different story.

Qube The Wordsmith said...

U havta confirm luv...

Tisha said...

based on what you said, babe you have a really good friend who has good intentions towards you...
what are your intentions towards him?
i am happy with you o cynic "wink"

Tisha said...

based on what you said, babe you have a really good friend who has good intentions towards you...
what are your intentions towards him?
i am happy with you o cynic "wink"

Tisha said...

based on what you said, babe you have a really good friend who has good intentions towards you...
what are your intentions towards him?
i am happy with you o cynic "wink"

LG said...

hmm' dis one pass me o, newayz make we dey look naa' but sofry sofry o

CaramelD said...

LMAO @ rumu-rumu!!

You need to have the talk......

Good Naija Girl said...

Until it's official, I'm saying that you're not in a relationship.

It looks like you have all the "ingredients" you need to cook up a relationship though...

miz-cynic said...

@jayla:-which means......no biggie....i can safely heave a sigh of relief...not tht i dnt fancy him but u dont get to hv it so easy...like the yorubas will say......u gats to work for it

@tigeress:-don mind the naughty boy ....when im cooking, he comes behind, switches off the burner,starts to nozzle my neck....u know the rest.
@chayoma:-yes o, i'v always been one for ...i love u i love you.....talk ur own.....as in u have to put it out thr hoha.....i wana be ur boyfi......
@kmplx:-yes o.....no official convo-uncheck.lol

miz-cynic said...

nice anon:-abi o...rumu rumu sums it all up...there's anoda one coined frm a razz yoruba word...."ragobo"-rabossing to funkify it.....ask chari , he'll know.
@k:-yes o...before dem come put me for "is coming"

@ clg:-yes o...guys can be tricky and dubious like tht...i shall wait patiently til i'm asked "out"...tht sounded old school.
@afro:-just like ...tht yemi blaque line....i forgot....remind me jo.

@s.m.f:-spoken like a true playa.lol.

@s.m.f:-u can cook well...thts why u sounded very moon star on tht ur audio blog.....btw moonstar means xtremely high.lol.instead of eating bellefull na soso drink srink u go dey drink.yet u can cook
@rose:-i will soon have the answer i guess....alled him at 1am tht i cldnt sleep, he showed up at my work place 8am to find out if i was fine now and they are strict abt resumption at his work place.

miz-cynic said...

@roc:-yes sir!
@tigeress:-cant cook or won't cook(its a show on bbc food) abi:-abeg tht na oyinbo bamboozing us jare.....if u urself wont enjoy whteva u cooked...then u cant cook , shikena.
@qube:-yes o, i no fit shout!
@tisha:-me sef i don begin dey gbadun am well well o......if the friend eva gathers liver to ask the question o it'll be a case of ...."miz-cynic will you be my...."
with me not allowing him to finish and saying "of course i'll be ur girlfriend"
@lg:-yes o, how u dey?tgif o, abeg i go reach home go gbe 2 smirn-off ice lura

miz-cynic said...

@CARAMEL D:-YES O , WE NEED TO TALK THE TALK.
@GNG:-D RELATIONSHIP SOUP HAD BETTER COME OUT SWEET O IF WE DECIDE TO COOK IT.LOL.

Omotee! said...

lol @ rumu rumu.

so i dont want to spoil the rumu rumu going on but be careful. do not assume u r in a relationship until u both have had "the" conversation. the type where he tells u what exactly he wants.

spot on with goodnaija girl.

do rumu rumu sharply o!

*Dith* said...

lol @ rumu rumu. that's a first.
Off to go finish reading.

*Dith* said...

To be honest with you dear, guys are really wierd. They do something and often times it means a totally different thing than what we women like to think it is.

I say u outright ask him what it is you guys are doing exactly. Trust me! It will suck if u dont get the response u expect but it is very much worth it in the end. Saves u a far worse heartache.

juiceegal said...

Rumu rumu?? *raises eyebrows*.......lol
Ok so evry1 has said it...men are very complex and they hate the "talk"......he just mite run a thousand miles wen u bring up that topic,but on the other hand u cnt keep waitin around until he makes it official.....4rm all what uv listed out, u guys are as good as in a relationship,all that remains is the official bit,but den frankly do u want 2 live ur life based on one unspoken rule that says u guys have 2 b official nd al,i wld say keep doin ur thing,eventually things would fall into place.

blogoratti said...

Assumption:the mother of all mistakes. My take? Do not assume that you are in a relationship,be sure first! I'll go with *Dith* -ask him like she said...

miz-cynic said...

@omotee:-it just dawned on me tht i dont blame my friends when they insinuate such but definitely i know better

@dith:-i definitely will not be asking. if he oesnt ask, i'll assume we are just friends and just as easily date any nice guy i like tht asks me out.

@juiceegal:-uuummm.dis ur name odikwa very risky...... when i think of juicy girl i think of my randy geography teacher in secondary sch.....he would say go n cal me imelda;when u now say sir i dont know her;he;ll say:::tht juicy;robustic;fantasticgirl

exschoolnerd said...

you have to be sure dear!!! dont assume till u guys have had the talk...hope it goes well..cause it seems like u really like him!

juiceegal said...

Lol at juicy robustic fantastic girl...dat ur geography teacher nawa o........but i won't lie all d boys say i'm juicy sha....lol

ibiluv said...

so u both like each other

sounds like intimacy without commitmentto me

if u wanna take this deeper cos it sounds like u do

u guys have to have the talk.........then become exclusive if it suits u both

then and only then are u dating or in a relationship.......

rite now u are friends with benefits.........

miz-cynic said...

@esn:-he's alright.(with a wav eof my hand)lol.
@juiceegal:-i see.......
@ibiluv:-sista ibi.ese pupo for being candid

miz-cynic said...

@esn:-he's alright.(with a wav eof my hand)lol.
@juiceegal:-i see.......
@ibiluv:-sista ibi.ese pupo for being candid

Tyger said...

you are definitely in a relationship.

all you have listed above sans rumurumu = best buddy

all you have listed above +rumurumu = lover

thats the major difference between your best man and your guy na! the attraction and the rumurumu

get real oh... or else before you know it you are in love and wondering when this nonsense thing happend! talking from experience dear! not like its a bad thing though... great stuff in fact!

Just...Toluwa said...

tigeress...u r funny!

mizcynic...em yeah, u r! definitely!

naijagirl said...

thiiiink seriously, do you think you are in a relationship? if you are still unsure, try to tease your way through the question. if he is saying the opposite, then you know, but then you were just teasing right.

my philosophy.....no matter how good a friend you are, one day a man will always want more. So uhhhh, perhaps, he wants to get into a relationship, uhhh perhaps, he assumes y'all are in a relationship, uhhh, perhaps, you are both passing out time, uhhhh, perhaps, the mind is just playing its tricks again

pink-satin said...

Nope you not in a r.ship
not till you guys have sat down to talk abt getting into a r.ship

RocNaija said...

Roc's just checking up on ya..

Chari said...

omo ees not official oh...but ur almost there sha...

rayo said...

this is neva as clear cut as it seems so i think u should just ask him, i mean u guys shld define d relationship. that removes all questions

~Sirius~ said...

I guess asking each other is the answer to that.

Let's just say, a relationship is brewing.....

Because there is no DEFINITION and I strongly advise you not to dwell on assumptions.

Lady X said...

Awww!!!!
It's so cute that he called you when a song you liked was playing on the radio!!!!
Like how many guys think of doing that!!!
It's a relationship when you both agree it is I think!But it sounds like one already!Better than most have had I dare say...

JoanPeck said...

You need to be sure, and the sooner, the better. :)

miz-cynic said...

@tyger:-i like the way u put the equation jare like if a+b=c,then definitely c-b will equal a now,cut and dried.....but then are we saying a relationship is just friendship+rumu rumu?rily tht puts it simply i guess.
@just toluwa:-babe, i dont think i am o, i have to have the talk
@naijagirl:- i plan to do tht very soon but i'm planning a foolproof and dignified way
@pink satin:-yea pretty much wht everone here has said so far.
@rocnaija:-u!
@chari baba:-yes o its not official!
@rayo:-im loving this ur mean bad ass chic eye today o. yes i guess i'd have to ask. i don already hint say....for me o u'd have to ask me hoha o, we laffed abou it and he said "as in i love u,i love u, talk yur own".
@sirius:- well my own remedy is to withdraw a lil from the friendship and see how reacts
@lady x:- it felt romantic, those lil things for me is my definition of romance
@joan peck:-yea, sooner than later, they say in my alma matter, ojo n lo ow o gbodo wogbo in this case, ojo n lo efforts o gbodo wogbo

Woomie O! said...

Have you two kissed??
If you haven't, trust me, you're just friends. The kiss seals it mehn!
Good luck!
Guard your heart - jealously.

miz-cynic said...

@woomie o:-whr u dey, u no dey for town o......i say we dey do rumu rumu....kissing et al

Anonymous said...

he's super cute.. especially the last line.."whats ur spec, and he says u.. ' he got me blushing.. well ure most definately in like with each other.. y dont u just enjoy.. i have found out that trying to define stuff just ends them abrubtly..or domething.. or maybe it just happens to me... i dont know but the suspense definately adds to the allure of the whole thing..

guerreiranigeriana said...

...abeg, i don't know anything about relationships o...but this your rumu rumu is funny!!!...have you had the talk as others have advised?...

OPTIMISTIC_alyzzz said...

hmmm, babe u really need to sit him down and ask him so u dint get hurt, u guys have to define what u are doing before he thinks its just friendship with benefits, in fact i think u should query yourself first before u go and ask him,

BTW thanks for stopping at my blog, come back next time!!!, i sure will be here again.

Arewa said...

U r in a non-relationship!

Its the best of both worlds; all the companionship and sexing (baddo) without the drama of boyfriend/girlfriend.

Don't overanalyse it! Let it flow... And enjoy the ahem benefits.

P.s. If I go uncelibate NA YOU cause am. Because I dey here dey read devotion and look at what u r feeding me...

miz-cynic said...

@anonymous:-yes o....it happens toall of us...when we try to overanalyse stuff it just kuku goes away in a puff.

@g-naija:-i am not comfortable having the talk jare.....been teasing him but it hasnt led anywhere

@optimistic:-ur blog was a fun read, it def needs definition.....

@arewa:- u, morning devotion ke!i'd die!.

Writefreak said...

y'all need to define this fine relationship! there's nothing left that pple who are dating do that you don't do!

FFF said...

hmmmm. well, if u ask me sha, i'd say:

r u in a relationship - uncheck.

could this blossom into a relationship - check.

could dis remain a little more than a buddy call, a.k.a friends with benefits - check & out.

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Pink Lips said...

My opinion is, a relationship does not begin until it has been agreed by both parties, defined and clearly stated.

Original Mgbeke said...

Hmmm sounds like a go to me but with these men abeg I like to receive confirmation first of all. That is how you will be feeling funky with yourself and the guy go just present you with one hot isho!
Meanwhile, what does rumu rumu mean?

Chi-Chi said...

it actually depends
now at days, guys would rather not ask you to be deir babe...they believe it should flow or come like that

Chi-Chi said...

o to find out
ask him, if he has a gf? and say it's out of curiosity hehe

Nice Anon said...

Wetin happen with our rumu rumu boy?

miz-cynic said...

d boy don start to dey misbehave

Nice Anon said...

Really? Na waya ooh. Na so dem dey start out really nice then small time dem go dey act like small pikin wey dem be.