Monday, December 21, 2009

back from vacation,wana blog

yea, like the title says, i went on vac o as in for 4 full weeks and like the scruge i am , i wanted to wait till i resume before i post.plus awon nice anon, mgbeks, ibiluv and co have said we shd post or else>>>>>>>.

gist plenty o

first and foremost my aunt, as in my mom's blood sister,same father same mother died. the one i gisted u about that got married last at age 43. unfortunately she did not leave any child.There is some drama surrounding her death.story is that she had been complaining that since they got married,they've hard spent 2 weeks in all together since hubby is based in akure and my aunt port harcourt.She said they shd start to live together as man and wife, so the man resigned cos she had the better paying job.Then they had an accident,the driver was driving, not a scratch on him,the hubby was behind with her, not a scratch on him,the first story we heard was that the car hit the kerb and nothing happened to the car but my aunt sustained injuries in her head and died, then again the story changed to it was raining heavily, visibility was poor and the car tumbled and then landed more on the side she was....blah blah and the injury she suffered was serious.

naturally there were side talks here and there about if thr was any foul play on the hubbby's part, some salient issues also came up like

the driver had been reprimanded before on his driver by my uncle the immediate elder brother of the deceased and had advised my aunt to sack the driver

that the mother never totally consented to the wedding cos she had always had her close to him at her bosom in akure to the extent tht he got a better job once in abuja but did not take it cos of his mother

also when the issue of where they were to bury came up, the hubby and the family said she cldnt be buried at akure(hubby's hometown) because as they claimed "there is no decent burial ground in the whole of akure (the tradition is for ur wife to be buried in ur home town).

sidetalks from family members of the guy saying ''afterall she did not bear any child for us"

he was so happy about the ministry providing funds because he kept on saying he's broke o and shey we know his family too is broke. friends and family of the wife did practically everythn.when the money landed his account,2 weeks after the burial cos u know ministry and the tendency to delay stuff he apportioned like a third for himself even though some bulk money that the family and friends used for the burial had not been refunded.

I am not one to judge as the whole thing must be traumatic for him but all i know is something doesnt gel somewhr.even if its as mundane or inconsequential , the least of what is wrong may be that he did not love my aunt as christ loved the church.and the worst being that he is a gold-digger, i know he will be rewarded accordingly cos God doesnt take either with levity.I couldnt help biffing the guy when the pastor kept hampering in the church during the burial service tht in line with God's directive, his wife is gone, is gone...if he wants to marry today sef, he is free, death has done them part...i have a feeling he went to tell the pastor tht the family is witch-hunting him.

on a lighter note , there was a funny part to all this, the pastor during the service said "madam lagbaja(my aunt).....was a firtuous woman(virtuous woman),despite thew fact that she married at 43.....,she was a firgin, (virgin)....her husband can confirm this....my sister and I could not help ourselves , we burst out laffing...quietly ofcourse.

24 comments:

Onose said...

wow may she rest in peace. with my cousin's fathers death there was alot of speculations that someone killed him ( his sisters) so i kind of understand the story with ur aunt. your uncle seems like maybe he had a hand in her death, im not sure but they way he jumped on that money...hes lookin real suspect right about now...and lmao @ firgin/firtuous...na hausa man? and whether ur aunt was a 'firgin' or not wetin concern am? wetin concern the ppl wey dey for the service? na wa ...have a merry xmas and happy new yr in advance!

miz-cynic said...

@the damsel:-i tire o...wht such rubbish!God forgive me but i wondered if he would have been so quick to say tht to a woman if the reverse had been the case . as in d "u can marry today if u want", let no one disturb her.double standards!!!.

Anya Posh said...

NA WA O, the whole thing is so fishy; especially when money is involved. We have to be suspicious about such people who will readily & easily abandon all they have to be with another person so quickly - people can be funny.

Nice Anon said...

Na wa o! May her soul rest in peace! That is so sad as I've had such happen to the only direct aunt I ever had. She just died in Cali after fighting off some invisible thing. Till today it beats all of us how she just died like that. Leaving 6months old twins. Life just complicate sometimes oo.

but LOL@ her being a virgin. LOL

doll (retired blogger) said...

wow! sad.. sorry to hear this..may her soul RIP

Myne said...

Wow, I hope your aunt's soul rests in peace. But am not surprised at the stories that are coming up, that's how it usually is. Trust pastors to jump on their double standards bandwagon, if its a woman would he be saying all those things.

miz-cynic said...

anya p:-yes o, cos if its a self respecting man he shd not have agreed to tht se?

nice anon:- i like to believe that as long as i am alive if any thn bad befalls me and pple around me are trying to say its "aiye" i try to very bravely not succumb cos i hv this philosophy that awon aiye as how, if God almighty did not allow it to happen it wouldnt have.as in "the aiye pple ehn! won ti po to!-they neva plenty reach( they should go and do photocopy of themselves.)

doll:-yeah we were very close in the begiinning but she left our house and we became not so close.

myne whitman:-na wah for propanganda, as in show me someone who died even at 100yrs and i'll show u 10 pple willing to say lagbaja had a hand in it.aiye ma ni ka o.

Zayzee said...

sorry for your loss. May she rest in peace. that pastor should have been thrown off the podium

Ms.O said...

wow.May she rest in peace. The pastor.LWKMD!

Tigeress said...

I'm so sorry about ur aunt. It's such a sad story. Instances like this make me question God. May her soul RIP. As for the pastor- just a blantant idiot- lol! What has her being a virgin got to do with her being virtious or her death?

LusciousRon said...

May her soul rest in peace! People sha. Everyone will be paid back in their coin.

Adeboy said...

May her soul R.I.P.

miz-cynic said...

@uzezi:-yes o,u know say me i be muslim so i begin dey wonder if its the norm in churches

@ms o:-upon all he had the yoruba factor of turning v to f.

@tigeress:-exactly!wetin consign virgin for the mata

@lusciousron:-yes o!thats my believe too. the law of karma

@adeboy:-yes o. may she RIP

Spesh said...

May your aunt continue to rest with tha Lord!
yes, there is sumthn fishy from your story, but I always believe that what comes up,must come down,so whatever it is that you aint seeing now,shall soon be clear!

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ibiluv said...

may she rest in peace

happy new year

funkola said...

may she RIP. God knows what happened and why it did. i luv d way u added humour to the story.

Jinta said...

it simply was her time. and i suppose the bobo has to prepare for the future now

Good Naija Girl said...

I'm really sorry that your aunt passed away; may she rest in peace and may your family, especially your mom and her siblings, be able to find peace during this difficult time.

From the little I know, I know that when something tragic happens, everyone has a theory and there's a lot of talk that goes on that might be more hearsay than fact, which is really a shame.

I get so annoyed when I hear stuff like that last bit. I'm sorry but whether the deceased was a virgin or not is not something that should be brought up at their funeral. Gosh!

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ManCee said...

WOW
Firgin or virgin
AT 43?!!!
WOW