Monday, March 2, 2009

THE EXPERIMENT

The experiment:-To determine whether it is necessary to play games at all where relationships are concerned-the female perspective

Aim:-T o find out whether ity is necessary to play games in a relationship.

Materials:-
1.3 unattached,single,looking for a relationship and free to be in a relationship emotionally GUYS
2.average looking guys(this is to eliminate the possibility of it being their looks that make them behave the way they do....)
3. a female:-(also average looking:-this is to eliminate bias on the part of the guys and to eliminate the affordability of the girlto overplay hard to get.)
4.A three weeks relationship each(each guy with the girl concerned)

Procedure
Girl meets Boy,call him R1,they chat and find out they have a lot in common and girl finds R1 attractive , just like R1 also feels that Girl Is attractive.

R1 calls girl incessantly and they have great conversation, he also sends texts frequently to girl and girl replies.....girl plays first card which is to reply his texts but not call him.....

R1 keeps calling and every thing seems fine until suddenly.....R1 stops calling and texting and maintains no communication at all....at first this worries girl and girl thinks of calling...but girl now gets annoyed and says wht the heck.....this is the beginning stages.,he should do all chasing.A week passes R1 still doesn't call or txt still.......Girl chins....

Then after a week, R1 sends a text....."hello, how are u doing...just said i shd say hi"...wtf.!

R2 was introduced to girl thru a mutual friend,after he complained its hard to find a girl of same religion he likes, he does the chasing actively because he knows hes the man and he gots to.....girl also reciprocates by replying txt msgs but once again plays tht card of not calling...everythn goes on well as they have great conversation ..all of a sudden R2 plays tht same card , not calling or txting for a week,girl misses him but thinks wtf!...
coincidentally R2 txts exactly same day as R1 with a txt tht read thus "salam alaykum girl"....girl ignores txt and he calls with some bullshit story of the silence was supposed to be a test.once again wtf!

CONTROL
R3:-this is the control....hes supposed nice and its a fairytale story....girl lets down her guards and she thinks R3 does same too..she is plain and very open about the fact tht she actually likes him and wht not...just like he also proclaims....come 4 weeks .....R3 stops calling, txting...girl does all calling/txting with the excuse he is busy....gradually R3 begin to show withdrawal symptoms....and does not call anymore.

Results
In GIRL VS R1, the guy polishes up his act and is now more serious than ever, girl is seriously considering a relationship with him but does not call him or txt him first......R1 is ever more attentive.

In girl vs R2,same results occur.

In the control however, it was noticed that girl's heart got broken

ASSUMPTIONS
1.Handsome guys are egocentric,conceited and arrogant,ugly guys overmake up for their ugliness and are thus overtly nice,naive,inassuming and humble...therefore for the purpose of this experiment...an average guy was chosen....which equals"normal guy"
2.All other factors are equal.i.e ceteris paribus being financial and social status

Conclusion:-It is necessary to play some games where relationships are concerned.

45 comments:

wordmerchant said...

Its like a necessary evil isn't it?All these games, the chess moves we play in relationships...sometimes i wonder if its necessary. I love the beginning of relationships, its so sweet.. lol.


My brothers are always informing me that its an "african woman" thing, the boning for men, apparently oyimbo girls don't give them such a hard time.

But don't men love the chase?...they seem to imo. I may be very wrong..who knows.

wordmerchant said...

I am first!!!! oh yeah!

miz-cynic said...

i hvnt even finishd d post,wordmerchant!

Rita said...

Let's see as it goes...but I think I know the answer :-)

Jayla. said...

Funny thing, i did a post on ugly guys. I think men enjoy the chase tho

Writefreak said...

Games people play! Some shakara usually has to be involved in the relationship but some ladies overdo it methinks!

miz-cynic said...

@wordmerchant:-yes o its a necessary evil....like i always say i used to be a playa playa as in NBA all stars sef cant step to me...but i realise all these things are not worth it.cos at the end of the day u get tired and worn out frm all the game playing and u just wana flow naturally

miz-cynic said...

@rita:-yes o...u know the answer....a lil game playing is necessary jare
@jayla:-im gona check out tht post....sure it has something to do with my own speculation

@writefreak:-yes o.....i dont blame some ladies tht overdo it....do u know the nimber of brothas tht have showed them....guys need iron hand

Temite said...

Well I dont play games. I swear non what so ever. I call when and if I feel like it. I text when and if I feel like it. If I get a call, I will reply (I am polite). If I like you, you will know that I like you. If you dont like me anymore because I refuse to play games then that is your problem. Although it hurts when I lose guys to this, I console myself that I dont want a Man who will play games with me. If you like me enough then you will LOVE that I refuse to play games. I am a grown woman not a prey to be chased around. mscheeeeeeeeeeeew. Sorry about this rant. XOXO.

Miss Definitely Maybe said...

I think games are for teenagers, I have no time for men who want to play games, clearly they have nothing better to occuppy their time

zara (my alter ego) said...

lol!! u just reminded me of my biology days.. control specimen! lol

why do we(girls) like to play that card(not calling but wanting to be called) it gets tiring.. sometimes i want to call a guy but i hold on, sometimes i do it literally ma..lol.. stopping myself cos i think i shudnt.. why?

Original Mgbeke said...

I don't play games, I'm up front about what I want and if ol' boys not like am then make them waka.
Interesting stuff sha.

bumight said...

i dont think games are necessary. If i like a guy, I call, text...but if it seems like im d one doing all the calling and texting, then i get z message!

rethots said...

Hmmm, why not go the easier path and just sweep gher off her feet?

miz-cynic said...

@temite:-temite,do,do(sorry in ibo)....i feel u...breathe in....out....

@mdm:-all these games sometimesmakes it more interesting & intriguing

@zara:-yea,i was a science student,yes o...u are not supposed to show too much interest lest the other party's interest fizzles

@mgbeks:-i have decided to be upfront now too o,man wey like u ,go stay,make man wey no wan stay dey go.simple!

@bumight:_but y should u wait until d withdrawal symptoms start...ur the babe men! u shd leave while the ovation is loudest.

tara douglas said...

I AGREE WITH U
THE GAMES R NECESSARY
BU THEY CAN BE IRRITATING.
NICE POST.

Afrobabe said...

sometimes its necessary girl...and fun...

who the F gives the guys the right to stop texting or calling...mcheeeewww

miz-cynic said...

rethots:-we'll se abt tht.are naija girls tht romantic.

miz-cynic said...

tara douglas:-blogging is now an addiction o....glad u liked the post cos i see its ur first time here.

afrobaby:-werin dey....yes o some wtf moments i had thr.

Jinta said...

when the hunter becomes the hunted...

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LusciousRon said...

I don't do the shakara thing, I know several guys of my acquaintance would disagree. If I like you we are good, if not what is the point of wasting time. I don't believe in getting to like someone after a time, its either there is an attraction or something or nothing at all.

wordmerchant said...

lol@i hvnt even finishd d post...i am learning...shona and bumight are teaching me!

ibiluv said...

i like you

you'll know-i need not wait for you to be the *chaser*......

i dont like you-you'll know it

i HATE games-i'm too old for it

miz-cynic said...

@jinta:-yes o!when the player becomes the played.

@secret diary-kilo n baka gan sef?

@luscious:-i tire o!

@wordmerchant:-desperado chicks i tell u,those chicks

@ibiluv:-i trust u babes....morova agba n tara mi

bArOquE said...

all this tests, what are they meant to prove?

Funms-the rebirth said...

if u dont play games, how will it be interesting?

Buttercup said...

i wont lie, i used to do the never-seem-too-available thing, but i didnt intend it as a game..at all..

doug said...

I know that women are always about the "chase", and how men love it, and take pride in being able to "conquer" and all that.

Well in light of wordmerchant's question I will make my stand on this issue abundantly clear:

F#$%K THAT S#$%T!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

miz-cynic said...

baroque:-it was supposed to remind u of high school biology,that was the theme,the message is ...u guys need iron-hand...a babe tht seems too easy and open translates to too easy for u...gets treated badly,it is necessary to play some games where relationships are concerned...do u get it now?

miz-cynic said...

@funms:-exactly...those coy games makes it all the more interesting

@buttercups:-its still a game albeit subtle.....never seems too available, never call first,never this....how abt just do wht u feel like doing, wht u wana do....as in ..."say wht u mean to say"

@doug:-u better go and cut ur afro first doug.lol.we are talking serious talk here o.*sticking tongue out*

Afrobabe said...

lmao...I dont see myself replying all those comments oh...no energy...

This is the section of the movie that has that line...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dC_bLAdx774&feature=related

theicequeen said...

blech..i hate playing games. HateHateHate!!!...but you have to...you just have to, from the simple to the complex...cuz wether you want to or not, it's most likely the other party is..so annoyingconfusingfrustrating!! but then you don't want that person playing games in circles around you, so you have to match them move for move...until that phase hopefully passes and you're free of the obligation of game playing...if that phase ever passes...

miz-cynic said...

@ice-q:yes o.hopefuly wen u guys start d real relatnshp,d games wil stop

exschoolnerd said...

i hate games they can be very annoying!

like bein upfront..

Buttercup said...

hey missy! hope u r good??

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eizzy.k said...

hmmm interesting girl...i agree wid ur results tho...

miz-cynic said...

@ESN:-U CAN SAY THT AGAIN!
buttercup:-im good o....ise ti fe ba temi je . honestly....they keep slapping me with it left right and centre.

scribble,me.free said...

tbh, i hate games...all that, i wont call you till you call me nonsense...if I dont call a girl for 3 weeks, its simply that I dont have anything to say to her...not necessarily that I dont want to talk to her.

At the same time, it's necessary to not be needy in a relationship, which is probably why R3 withdrew.

It's imperative to keep a balance, let the guy/girl know you're interested in them, but you're fine without them.

FFF said...

it doesn't always happen dat way. am d 'control' prototype. with quite a handful of men, i got d same result. with my husband, i got a good husband. i strongly believe there is a man/woman for every type of man/woman

JustDB said...

very 'technical'.. errr so there's no serious hope for the swash-buckling dude or what?

princesa said...

Its a natural law...

The more evasive a girl is, the more mysterious and interesting the guy finds her.

True theory!

Cidersweet said...

Hmm... interesting specimens ;-)

Cidersweet said...

Hmm... interesting specimens ;-)